My story is not over yet

Posted by Sara Huey on October 09, 2016 at 06:56 PM

I grew up in the church all of my life. I married Brian at 23 and we had 2 beautiful children together. When my son was 6 months old, Brian passed away unexpectedly in his sleep. I was the one that found him. I thought my life was over. I had no idea how I was going to raise 2 small children on my own, much less be without a partner. Brian and I had our ups and downs and I would come to figure out later that he was my best friend, but not the love of my life.

I met Ben 4 months after Brian died. He was also a widow with 3 girls. We bonded instantly and I tried hard not to fall for him, but it happened. I made some mistakes and found myself pregnant 4 months later. I had fallen in love and I fell hard. Things started to unravel when almost immediately I was catching Ben in lies. He had a rough childhood and his parents were not the best examples. I had known in my gut for a long time that this marriage wasn't how it was supposed to be. I knew I didn't trust my spouse and I knew that some of his behaviors weren't healthy for any of us, much less himself. He was very selfish and would rather be with his friends than his family. He refused to admit he needed any kind of counseling or help. It wasn't until he cheated on me that the lesson started to appear. I needed to be away from him, but God knew I'd honor my vows and never leave. I divorced him, not for his infidelity, but for his lack of remorse or changed behavior, despite his claims to love me. I can look back on every painful event in my life and see that God had something else in mind. One constant in my life has been my faith. I firmly believe he has something much better in store and that a good, Christian man awaits. My story is not over yet.

I would love to help someone else who has gone through a similar situation. If sharing my story would help, I'll be glad to do it. —Sara Huey